My friend told me that when her mum was 35 and not dating, a lot of "well-meaning" friends and family would push her to get a boyfriend quickly and ask her why she wasn't "stressed" about her current situation.

She replied, "I can choose and attract a partner, but my children can't choose their father."

Some decisions like "who to spend the rest of your life with" have a significant impact on the rest of our lives and unfortunately can also be out of our control. Even if we want to "rush" sometimes, sometimes, there is little that we can do.

Generally speaking, we make poor decisions when in a state of panic or any heighted emotional state, and might even "settle" or "attract the wrong people." Put yourself out there, seize opportunities, and "whatever happens, happens." What more can you do?